There are a few different ways to approach the subject, or reality, of death and dying.  Most of us consider death to be tragic and yet most of us would also agree that it is inevitable.  As much as anyone has tried to defy their or other’s physical deaths, the outcome is always the same.  This has been going on since man first came into being and, undoubtedly, many, many millennium before that.

So to write something to people to help them deal with their or a loved one’s eminent demise is not an easy thing to do.  Denial of bad things is good if it helps in a cure or remission.  It is useless in trying to avoid the unavoidable.  Acceptance seems like just giving up and who, except a suicidal person, wants to just give up? We can be as angry as we want about it.  We can throw things around and curse Bob (thee or not thee Bob), our friends, family and anyone else who can hear us.  None of this outrage will exempt us from what must happen.

I have revolted against death all of my life even while some of my habits or lack of them taunt death to my very doorstep.   Still, I do these rebellious things out of defiance to the fate that awaits us all. People die and, whether we like it or not, we must get over it—or not.  Personally, I refuse to submit to the inevitable.   It is a useless stance to take, of course, but I take it anyway.   Somewhere, I keep hoping, there is mercy or tenderness enough to stop death from happening.  However, I do admit that despite my yearnings life and death will continue on ad infinitum.

~ Bob Zaboo